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Ultimate Dildo Guide for Beginners

Are you a newcomer to the wonderful world of dildos? Don’t worry, you’re by no means alone. The humble dildo may strike you as one of the simplest sex toys about and therefore the first port of call for most. But in fact, that’s far from the case.

In actual fact, most people start out with a small and discreet vibrator and only after trying out other sex toys do they develop the interest (and the courage) to approach a dildo. But what is a dildo, exactly? What are they made of, how many different types are there and what are the best ways to use them? Below is all the information you could possibly need when investing in a dildo

What is a dildo?

A dildo is a non-electric sex toy most often designed to resemble a penis. They are used for vaginal or anal penetration during masturbation, foreplay and/or sex. What’s more, they are widely regarded as the oldest form of sex toy, having been around for an incredible 30,000 years.

Because dildos are generally shaped like a penis and as many even feel just like the real deal, they provide a more realistic experience compared to other products, such as vibrators, and some find this to be many times more satisfying.

They are available in every conceivable material, colour and size with different versions for different types of use. So when it comes to which model you should choose for yourself, there is no clear-cut answer. Instead, it largely comes down to how exactly you intend on using it. 

Dildos for beginners

If you’re looking for your very first dildo, we recommend that you start off with a smaller model. As a rule of thumb, you can use the number of fingers that you are able to comfortably and pleasurably insert in order to judge more or less how thick you would like your first dildo to be.

Here at Sinful, we carry a selection of slender silicone dildos in various sizes. This means you can start gently and then advance up the rungs once you get used to each size. For example, start off with our Sinful Slender Silicone Dildo Small and then graduate to the medium model when you feel ready to do so.

Once you’ve worked up the courage, our slender models even come in large and extra-large editions, complete with stoppers on the end so you can use them for anal stimulation as well.

If you’re keen for a dildo with a realistic look, we would recommend the Willie City Realistic Dildo which is 5.5 inches long and features a suction cup base.

Hand holding a black dildo with suction cup

Dildos with structure

Dildos with different texture and structure types such as ribs, dots and waves are designed to provide extra stimulation for the vaginal opening. No matter whether they are equipped with an electric vibrator or not, the structure will deliver a vibrator-like feeling as it moves in and out, and the patterned elevations rub pleasurably against your vagina. Fans of structured dildos simply love that feeling you get as the dildo slides in and out of your body, with thrust becoming an important part of the experience, no matter whether you take things slow or fast.

Many glass dildos feature different structure types, although even silicone and TPE dildos are typically available in ribbed, wavy and dotted editions if that’s more your thing.

Hand holding a transparent glass dildo

Realistic dildos

Naturally, there is no true substitute for the real McCoy. However realistic dildos are nonetheless designed to look and feel just like a proper penis. This often means visible veins, a clearly defined penis head and different skin tones to choose between so you can enjoy your very own dream penis in terms of size, shape and colour.

Realistic dildos are available in pretty much every shade under the sun, including surreal colours like bold purple and neon pink, and in much more true-to-life models, including ones moulded from the members of well-known porn stars. If you’re interested in learning more about the range of realistic options, we recommend taking a look at products from Willie City. Their dildos feature a wealth of realistic features which not only make them a treat to behold, but also more realistic in use.

Dildos in the realistic category do not usually feature a vibrator, although some models come with a bullet vibrator which can be inserted if you like.

Hand holding a realistic dildo with suction cup

Dildos with suction cup

This type of dildo also comes in a range of different varieties but what they all have in common is that they feature a base with a suction cup so they can be fixed to all kinds of flat surfaces. This enables a wide world of kinky, hands-free possibilities. Just try it once and you’ll soon be looking differently at practically every flat surface you have in your home.

With a suction cup dildo in hand, every surface will be suddenly transformed into a source of pure pleasure. From the bedroom wall to an innocent chair or even the kitchen table.

The possibilities are many and you can enjoy them either on your own or together with your partner. Some suction cup dildos can even be used in a harness. For example, take a look at the American sex toy brand, Vac-U-Lock, who have a wide range of dildos that are all compatible with their popular harness products.

Most models have a broad suction cup that also works as a stopper and therefore makes them well suited for anal stimulation.

Small dildo with suction cup

Strap-on dildos

If you are interested in trying your hand at some kinky strap-on experimentation with your partner, we recommend harness dildos. They are specifically designed for that very purpose. The bases on these models make them easy to attach to a harness. Hollow strap-on dildos are also available for those who want to offer their partner a potent dose of extra full-bodied and doubly expansive stimulation. Or alternatively, go for a vibrating strap-on and electrify your sex lives.

Another variation which falls under the strap-on category is the double strap-on dildo. These do not necessarily require a harness, but you will need a strong pelvic floor. They are designed to be inserted vaginally at one end while you use the other end to penetrate your partner.

Hand holding a black dildo with suction cup

Double dildos

Double dildos are often designed to stimulate one person but in two different ways – or better put, in two different orifices. This means you can experience what it feels like to be penetrated both vaginally and anally at the same time.

However some of our double dildos are designed so that they can be enjoyed together with a partner. These are very long and double-ended dildos with a penis head on each side so both you and your partner can experience penetration simultaneously.

If you’d rather keep all the pleasure to yourself, then opt for a model that, rather than being double-ended, is designed to penetrate both the vagina and anus at the same time. This way you can experience what it feels like to take on two different penises at once.

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Hand holding a purple double dildo

G-spot dildos

G-spot dildos stand out for their upward curve which helps them reach the area where your G-spot is located. Stimulating this area can help you attain a much coveted and wholly spectacular G-spot orgasm. Developing the knack takes some practice, but luckily help is at hand with these G-spot dildos.

Hand holding a black G-spot dildo

Dildo materials

We’ve already touched upon some of the different materials in our run-through of the different dildo types above, but below you can read a little more on what sets each material apart.

Silicone

Silicone is probably the most common dildo material around today, and not to mention the most versatile. Silicone dildos can be anything from firm or stiff to nice and soft. No matter what level of hardness you prefer, silicone always feels velvety to the touch, never cold and it quickly adapts to your natural body temperature.

Silicone is also durable and easy to clean afterwards using just warm water and a suitable cleaner – whether that be a mild soap or specialised sex toy cleaner. Be sure to always keep silicone products away from sharp objects that may rip or tear the surface.

You might think that silicone lube and silicone dildos go together like coffee and cream, but that’s actually not the case. In fact, it is very important to only use water-based lube on sex toys made from silicone in order to protect the product from deteriorating.

Jelly

Jelly is a mixture of polyvinyl chloride (PVC) and rubber. It is a popular material especially for beginner sex toys as it is cheap and can be produced in just about any conceivable shape. It is named for its squishy texture which feels a bit like actual jelly. Fans of this material enjoy its smooth and soft surface which feels genuine and highly realistic.

The soft finish is sometimes attained by using the softening chemical phthalate, but this chemical does carry some potential health risks and can provoke allergic reactions. That’s why all jelly models from Baseks, Sinful’s own brand, are 100% phthalate-free.

Jelly is generally a porous material – this can also make it a breeding ground for bacteria. So be sure to always give your jelly sex toys a thorough clean after each and every use.

We would also recommend only using water-based lube with sex toys made from jelly.

Hand holding a transparent jelly dildo

TPE

TPE is short for “thermoplastic elastomer”, or thermoplastic rubber. TPE is the material most often used in the manufacture of realistic sex toys. Currently, there exists a number of registered trademark materials such as CyberSkin, Ultraskyn, Fanta Flesh and TruSkyn – and all of them are made using thermoplastic elastomer.

TPE, and real-feel material in particular, are extremely porous and so it is important they are handled and cared for correctly. Always clean your TPE sex toys with warm water and mild soap or sex toy cleaner. Once your toy is dry, you should protect and treat the surface with renewing powder which will refresh the soft and realistic surface on your sex toy.

Toys made from TPE melt easily and take on the colour of other objects, so be sure to store them separately in a special storage pouch or box, and keep them in a dark, cool place.

Only use water-based lube together with products made from TPE.

ABS plastic

ABS is an abbreviation for “acrylonitrile butadiene styrene”. It is a hard and glossy type of plastic and a popular sex toy material. ABS is often used in vibrating dildos which in many cases have a soft outer surface made from TPE in order to make the product more realistic in both feel and appearance.

The most important property of ABS is that it’s a non-porous material which makes it easier to clean. All you’ll need is a mild soap or sex toy cleaner and some warm water from the tap.

Use a water-based lube with products made from ABS plastic – even when they are coated with TPE.

Metal/steel

Dildos of metal like steel are heavy, almost indestructible and designed to deliver a pretty intense sexual experience. They aren’t for everyone, but those who enjoy them swear by their weight and strength. They are cast in medical-grade stainless steel and hand-polished for that crisp and perfect shine.

They are safe to insert and fantastic for experimenting with temperature-play as they can be immersed in warm or cold water to attain exactly the temperature you want. Simply test the temperature on the inside of your forearm before inserting.

If you take good care of your metal dildo, you’ll have a best friend for life. Clean with water and mild soap and store separately in a protective pouch or box.

We recommend using a silicone-based lube together with your metal dildo.

Metal dildo with small drops of water

Glass

Glass dildos are often small works of art in and of themselves. They are aesthetically beautiful and often wouldn’t look out of place on your windowsill or mantelpiece.

Glass dildos are made from borosilicate glass which does not crack under pressure or when exposed to either the cold or the heat. Borosilicate glass is cast in solid dildo shapes (glass dildos are not hollow), resulting in dildoes that are not only weighty and extremely durable, but also completely safe to insert inside your body.

Glass dildos are easy to clean and hypoallergenic. The solid material can make for a more intense experience while they can also be used for tantalising play at different temperatures. Try cooling the product in the fridge or heating it up under some water before use for a totally unique sexual experience.

You can use any kind of lube you like with glass dildos.

Stone

The very first dildos we humans ever produced were made from stone and date 30,000 years back to the Old Stone Age. Experts continue to debate whether they were used for pleasure or in religious rituals, but we know what team we’re on.

Modern versions are handcrafted from stone varieties such as granite and quartz. This means that no two stone dildos are unique. For the same reason, they are also relatively expensive but also highly durable and hard-wearing.

Try running your stone dildo under some warm water before use to make it lovely and warm for a gentler and more realistic feel against your skin.

We recommend using a water-based lube together with your stone dildo.

Wood

Wooden dildos are made from specially treated wood and represent the least common dildo material. However, they are rising in popularity due to their sustainable and hard-wearing properties. These models are also gorgeous to behold and often handmade, although this also puts them into a slightly more expensive price bracket. As they are made from a natural material, no two models are completely alike. 

Wooden dildos will never feel cold, and they are easy to clean thanks to the special coating used which will often consist of several layers of water-based varnish, so they are safe to insert inside your body. As wood is a natural material, it is free from phthalates and other chemicals and thus a good alternative for those with allergies.

Most models are best cleaned with a damp cloth and a small amount of mild soap, although do be aware that other recommendations may apply depending on exactly what type of wood it is, and which surface coating has been used. To maintain the protective coating on your wooden sex toy, it is a good idea to store it away from other objects in a soft, thick and preferably lined fabric pouch.

You can use all types of lubes with your wooden dildo, although we would recommend a good, oil-based variety.

Hand holding a brown wooden dildo

Five tips to get the most out of your dildo

No matter what type, material or colour you choose, here are some tips to consider in order to get the absolute best out of your trusty new companion.

1. Body type and physical ability

It almost goes without saying that exactly how we are put together is a crucial factor when choosing a dildo.

If you like big, hard thrusts, then it can be quite difficult to get what you want out of one of these sex toys entirely on your own, and for some it may be completely impossible either due to general size, arm length or both. The solution in such cases might be a longer or a curved model instead.

If you experience problems with your arms or wrist, look for a curved or more ergonomically shaped dildo instead. Weight may also prove to be a crucial factor, so be careful with models made from heavier materials such as steel and glass. Alternatively, you might want to try a dildo with a suction cup which you can enjoy entirely hands-free.

2. Warming up

All penetrative sex is better, hotter and safer if you start by warming up. When you are nice and aroused, your body relaxes more, and this will make penetration – whether it be anal or vaginal – more comfortable and enjoyable.

If you’re with your partner, start by kissing sensually while you explore each other’s erogenous zones or ease yourself in with another type of foreplay. Alternatively, if you’re flying solo, use your fingers, a vibrator or another sex toy to gently tease yourself and begin getting into the mood.

As you become more and more aroused, the vagina will open up, relax and fill with natural lubrication. The anus will relax too, although it does not produce any natural lubrication of its own, so remember to apply plenty of anal lube.

Woman lying in bed wearing white lingerie

3. Experiment with depth and angle

When it comes to sex toys in general, we always recommend experimenting to find what you like best, and as dildos are one of the most versatile sex toys around, they are naturally no exception. After all, they are designed for much more than just pumping in and out.

Depending on shape, length and thickness, you should try experimenting with everything from depth, speed and angle of penetration. Try rotating or rocking your dildo – or wriggle it from side to side while it is inside your body.

Consider your solo sessions as a way to learn more about your body and what feels good for you.

4. Use lube – lots and lots of lube

We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again. Lube makes all sex feel better, so apply liberally to your dildo before getting down to business. If your new best friend is made of silicone, then you may need to use lots and lots of lube, while steel and glass variants might not require quite so much. But experiment and discover what works for you!

Either way, adequate lubricant will stop you from irritating your tissue and mucous membranes. Be sure to check what kind of lube goes best with the material of your dildo and select a high-quality lubricant which is good for you and your body.

Lubricant in white tube being poured into a hand

5. Try different techniques

We want to inspire you to experiment a little more with your dildo, so below are some different techniques you can try out or get your partner to use on you.

Angle downwards

Even if you have a totally ordinary, run-of-the-mill, straight dildo, you can still experiment a little with the angle you use. Try angling it downwards towards your back when lying flat. This will move the dildo up and down towards your clitoris – something which for many results in intense stimulation that will leave you in a state of breathless ecstasy.

Angle upwards

Try the opposite approach too; namely angling the tip upwards towards the front of your body while lying on your back. This will help you reach your G-spot – that super sensitive part of the body which many find to be extremely orgasmic. Or if you’re not that fond of overly intense stimulation in that area, then you may want to try a gentle rocking motion with a curved dildo instead.

Let it twist

The vaginal opening is home to many sensitive nerve endings which you can stimulate with your dildo. Practise twisting it round to stimulate your vaginal opening and the surrounding area. This will feel especially great when using a dildo with structure.

Double up

If you’re into anal penetration – or if you would simply like to try it out – then you can really bring your pleasure to a whole new level by using a butt plug at the same time as you use your dildo for vaginal penetration. Having an anal sex toy in your anus puts pressure on the vagina, making it tighter and more sensitive to the strokes of your dildo.

Three butt plugs in different colours

Do what feels right

To sum up, there are many routes you can take to discover the dildo that’s right for you. The important thing is to consider how you want to use it, how big it should be and how it should feel.

Just like all other sex toys, dildos can be fantastic both alone and with your partner. But remember that even though most dildos are designed to resemble a real penis, it is important to keep things in perspective. Dildos are sex toys designed for use in the bedroom (or wherever you choose to them). They are not intended as a replacement for your partner and should not be seen as a threat. Simply look at it as a friendly little helper.

And keep in mind that everyone is different. With a little bit of research, experimentation and enjoyment, you’ll soon find both the model and the technique that works for you.

Enjoy!